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Retirement Wisdom · Feb 21, 2022 ·

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Are you thinking big enough about your retirement? The traditional one-size-fits-all retirement isn’t the right fit for many people today. You can create a version that’s best for you. Dr. Grace Lordan, author of Think Big, Take Small Steps and Build the Future You Want explains how findings from behavioral science can help you do just that, by overcoming cognitive biases and other obstacles. Many of my favorite books for retirement aren’t about retirement, but the principles can give you an edge in thinking big and building your future.

We discuss:

Her idea of ME+ in Think Big
How the concept of Your Future Self can help you think big
Why new can narratives help us
When the “stories we tell ourselves” get in our way
How cognitive biases present obstacles
A cognitive bias many people aren’t aware of – but should be
The dangers of all or nothing thinking
Why identifying and managing your Time Sinkers can be a game changer
How small, positive actions done regularly drive make progress
Why being compassionate toward others matters

Grace Lordan joins us from London.

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Bio

Dr Grace Lordan is the Founding Director of The Inclusion Initiative and an Associate Professor at the London School of Economics and Political Science. Grace is an economist and her research is focused on quantifying the benefits of inclusion within and across firms, as well as designing interventions that level the playing field for under-represented talent within firms.

Grace is an expert advisor to the UK government sitting on their skills and productivity board, is a member of the UK government’s BEIS social mobility taskforce and is on the Women in Finance Charter’s advisory board.

Her academic writings have been published in top international journals and she has written for the Financial Times and Harvard Business Review. Grace is a regular speaker and advisor to blue chip finance and technology firms.

Think Big, Take Small Steps and Build the Future You Want, is her first book.

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For More on Grace Lordan

Think Big, Take Small Steps and Build the Future You Want

Website

SMILE in 2022 – London School of Economics Business Review (a 3 minute read on six life lessons from behavioral science you can put to good use this year)

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Podcast Episodes You May Like

How to Begin – Michael Bungay Stanier

The Future You – Brian David Johnson

The Mind-Body Connection and The Rabbit Effect – Kelli Harding

Tiny Habits Can Lead to Big Changes – BJ Fogg

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Wise Quotes

On Visualizing Your Future Self

“In behavioral science one of the things we know for sure is that people who visualize their future self in the present are much more likely to invest in themselves. There’s lots of things that are going on that can distract us from investing in our future selves. So, it’s really bringing the idea of yourself, not just the kind of vision and the lifestyle the person will actually have, but what they will actually be doing on a Monday to Friday [basis] in life is really what gets you there – through imagination. I can’t reiterate enough how well visualization works to bring the future to life. But it also works to bring the future into the present day, which is really when you needed to get motivated to take these small steps that will get you there.”

On Small Steps and a New Narrative

“I think fundamentally the stories that we tell ourselves define our actions. So if you believe that you don’t deserve something, you’re probably never going to get it. If you believe that you don’t belong to be in a particular situation, you’re unlikely to find yourself in that situation. If you believe that you don’t have enough time, which is a common kind of self-destructive narrative, then you’re you’re definitely not going to be able to do the things that you want to do. And part of the book Think Big is exploring the narratives that are holding you back. You can spend a lot of time with CBT and wrestling with yourself in order to try to disrupt those narratives, but I sometimes say: Actually why not get on with it and write a new narrative? So figure out how would you describe the person that you want to be in 5 years time. What are the actions that they’re taking daily? And now you start taking those actions – those really, really small steps. And I think there’s there’s a blurry line somewhere where you become that person, if you repeat those actions over a very long period of time.”

On Cognitive Biases

“One of the kind of biases that people have studied the most is Loss Aversion. This is the idea that if I lose something it causes my happiness to deteriorate much more than it would gain if I if I had gained the same thing on the other side. For me when I think about success, one the most interesting things is this idea of anticipated loss aversion. So there’s really great evidence has shown that the majority of people when they anticipate a negative event coming, they really overestimate the impact of the negative event is going to have on them as a person. So if you can imagine yourself putting out there being nervous about being turned down for a gig. The idea is when you’re imagining that you think it’s going to feel much worse than it actually is. I think the sad fact of that anticipation or anxiety, as it would manifest in some people, is that it does give real physiological reactions. So blood pressure increases, body tension increases, and your head aches. And it often stops people taking action.Had the person actually gone and tried what they wanted to do, had they even failed the negative impact on their happiness will be much less than what they anticipated it to be – because as human beings we’re really, really resilient.”

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About Retirement Wisdom

Planning for retirement goes well beyond your 401k or IRA. How will you invest your time after your full-time working years?

You’ll need another portfolio.

I help people create a multipurpose retirement, with the right mix of interests, activities and pursuits to invest your time wisely. And for many it includes a new version of work in some form– redefined on your own terms.

Schedule a call to see if a 1-on-1 program or a small group Designing Your New Life program can give you an edge in your next chapter.

Visit retirementwisdom.com for tools and resources to help you retire smarter.

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Retirement Wisdom · Feb 14, 2022 ·

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How are you approaching the second half of life? There are inevitable declines to deal with. But there are gifts that emerge that, if you’re attuned to them, can create greater meaning, renewed purpose, and happiness as you retire. Arthur Brooks, Harvard Professor and happiness columnist in The Atlantic, joins us to discuss his new book From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life. Are you ready for The Second Curve?

Arthur Brooks joins us from Massachusetts.

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Bio

Arthur C. Brooks is the Professor of the Practice of Public Leadership at the Harvard Kennedy School and Professor of Management Practice at the Harvard Business School. Before joining the Harvard faculty in July of 2019, he served for ten years as president of the Washington, D.C.-based American Enterprise Institute (AEI), one of the world’s leading think tanks.

He is also a columnist for The Atlantic, host of the podcast “How to Build a Happy Life with Arthur Brooks,” and subject of the 2019 documentary film “The Pursuit.”Arthur has written 12 books, including the national bestsellers “Love Your Enemies” and “The Conservative Heart.” His most recent book is “From Strength to Strength,” available on February 15, 2022.

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For More on Arthur Brooks

Order From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life

Website: arthurbrooks.com

Twitter: @arthurbrooks

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Episodes You May Like

Everyday Vitality – Dr. Samantha Boardman

Successful Aging – Daniel Levitin

Retire Happy – Dr. Catherine Sanderson

Are You Ready for The New Long Life? – Andrew Scott

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Mentioned in This Episode

HOW TO WANT LESS: The secret to satisfaction has nothing to do with achievement, money, or stuff. (The Atlantic)

Your Professional Decline Is Coming (Much) Sooner Than You Think: Here’s How to Make the Most of It. (The Atlantic)

Falling Upward by Richard Rohr

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Wise Quotes

On The First & Second Curves

“I noticed that analysis and innovation get harder as we get older and and I started looking into why that was. And there’s a whole body of research that shows that there’s something called fluid intelligence.

Fluid intelligence is what makes you good at what you’re good at. So you were a Wall Street (HR) guy and and what made you good at your job was that you were able to answer other people’s questions and solve other people’s problems faster than anybody else. That’s what makes you really good in the knowledge business and the ideas business. And that gets easier, and better, through your 20s and and into your 30s. And then in your late 30s, according to the research, that fluid intelligence, the ability to do that actually starts to decline, and is really in free fall in your 40s. That’s why certain things for people who are in perfectly good health and have high levels of skill, find their job getting harder and just more challenging than it used to be. That’s why lawyers find that in their 40s they’re not as sharp as they were in their 30s and surgeons find the same thing – whether they’re willing to admit it or not.

But here’s the good news. Actually the research shows that’s not your only intelligence. The first intelligence curve goes up and comes back down – but there’s another intelligence curve behind it called the crystallized intelligence curve, which makes it much easier for you not to answer somebody else’s questions, but to ask the right questions. You get much better at taking the information that’s out there and assembling it into a coherent storyline and solving problems that way now. That’s a different task than I’m going to answer your questions and solve your problems faster and better than anybody else. It’s: I’m going to go figure out what the right questions are and then I’m going to put together a team that’s going to solve them. It’s a different discipline. You’re basically going from innovator to instructor, from visionary inventor to master teacher.

That’s the crystallized intelligence curve and that goes up through your 40s, it goes up through your 50s and it stays high in your 60s and 70s, and even in your 80s, so as long as you’ve got your health and your marbles. You could be a sage. You can be a master teacher. You can be the Dalai Lama basically is what it comes down to. But you got to jump from that first curve to the second curve.”

On Happiness

“So just as food is made up of proteins, carbohydrates and fat, happiness is a combination of enjoyment, satisfaction and purpose. Those are the 3 macronutrients that go into happiness. And you will find that people say that they’re happy when they have all 3 in abundance and in balance. And people notice that they’re not very happy if they’re missing one or more of those macronutrients, just like you’d be. You won’t feel well physically if you’re missing one of those macronutrients from your nutritional profile. So those are the three. Now enjoyment is pretty obvious, although there’s a big research literature on what it means. Satisfaction is tricky because satisfaction is the reward and the joy that comes from a job well done – and as Mick Jagger sings I can’t get no satisfaction. The truth is you just can’t keep no satisfaction. And that’s because of the the way your brain is designed to make you run and run and run and run and run. I do a whole lot of research on how to break that in the book. I actually talk about the formula for breaking the back of that tyranny. And finally, purpose or meaning actually requires challenge and trauma and hardship and pain – and actually requires unhappiness paradoxically. So these are kind of complicated phenomena, but altogether, everybody can get better at getting happy if you’ve got the knowledge and skills.”

On Habits

“But there’s also the habits to develop for the people who are the happiest people. Now the habits of the unhappiest people are that they maximize 4 things: money, power, pleasure, and fame (or prestige). Most people don’t want to be famous actually, but they want to be admired. They want the prestige, so that’s the formula that people think will bring them happiness. And it just does not. That’s the formula for chronic dissatisfaction and yeah, your Grandma told you that. But you know your Grandma’s always right.

The real formula is what we need to pivot to – and these are the habits. This is based on 10,000 research articles and so I’m boiling the ocean here, but the habits of the happiest people is that they think every day about putting a deposit in 4 accounts. This is important retirement wisdom here. You got to put this in these 401(k) accounts for your happiness. And that’s your Faith, your Family, your Friendship and Work – and that is not necessarily paying work because a lot of people retired to listening to this. It is work that that where you earn your success by, in other words creating value with your life and by serving other people who who need you.

Faith, by the way, is not necessarily a traditional religious faith. It’s a sense of the transcendent – something bigger than you. Friendship is pretty obvious. Family: The ties that bind and don’t break and that we don’t choose (and God knows in many cases we wouldn’t choose) but these are the people that we can count on. These are the 4 accounts. So start your spiritual journey. I have a whole chapter in this book on how to start your spiritual journey, how to re-cultivate the root system in your life for your family.\

On Relationships

If you’re retiring, and if you have adult kids, call them. Re-establish these relationships. You need to go move near him if you’ve got grandkids. Don’t be like: I‘m gonna live in Florida because it’s warm and I can golf. No, that’s not going to bring you happiness like being near your grandkids is going to bring you happiness. Friendship is critically important. There are a lot of people who are retired today, older people who just don’t even know how to make friends. Successful people from Wall Street, they got tons of deal friends, but no real friends. I have a whole chapter about how to make real friends, not just deal friends, and find meaningful work where you serve other people. Those are the secrets: Faith. Family. Friendship and Work. That’s those are the habits of the highest happiness people.”

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About Retirement Wisdom

Planning for retirement goes well beyond your 401k or IRA. How will you invest your time after your full-time working years?

You’ll need another portfolio.

I help people create an active multipurpose retirement, with the right mix of interests, activities and pursuits to invest your time wisely. And for many, like me, it includes a new version of work – redefined on your own terms.

Schedule a call to see if a 1-on-1 program or a small group Designing Your New Life program can give you an edge in your next chapter.

Visit retirementwisdom.com for tools and resources to help you retire smarter.

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Retirement Wisdom · Feb 7, 2022 ·

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Your expectations and beliefs matter. Science journalist David Robson, author of The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Change Your World highlights research showing how negative views on aging impact how someone actually ages, and other ways expectations influence you.

We discuss:

How attitudes about aging influence the aging process
Ways in which expectations & beliefs affect our health, happiness and well-being
How expectations color what we see – literally and figuratively
The role that the expectations of other people plays in your life
How contagious toxic beliefs can be, but how the Framingham Heart Study shows the flip side
The research that surprised him the most
The benefits of multigenerational relationships versus age segregation
The pros and cons of approaching life with low expectations so you won’t be disappointed
Practical ways to harness the power of expectations – and avoid the downsides

David Robson joins us from London.

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Bio

David Robson is an award-winning science writer specialising in the extremes of the human brain, body and behaviour.

After graduating with a degree in mathematics from Cambridge University, he worked as a features editor at New Scientist for five years, before moving to BBC Future, where he was a senior journalist for five years. His writing has also appeared in the Guardian, the Atlantic, Aeon, Men’s Health and many more outlets. In 2021, David received awards from the Association of British Science Writers and the UK Medical Journalists’ Association for his writing on misinformation and risk communication during the COVID pandemic.

David’s first book, The Intelligence Trap, was published in 2019, and received worldwide media attention. His second book The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Transform Your Life, will be published in the USA and Canada on 15 February 2022. It is “a journey through the cutting-edge science of how our mindset shapes every facet of our lives, revealing how your brain holds the keys to unlocking a better you”.

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For More on David Robson

Website

The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Change Your World

Follow on Twitter

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Podcast Episodes You May Like

Everyday Vitality – Dr. Samantha Boardman

Chatter & Your Inner Voice – Ethan Kross

Can You Grow Younger? – Marta Zaraska

The Power of Fun – Catherine Price

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Wise Quotes

On the Impact of Negative Beliefs About Aging

“This research was so compelling to me – it’s actually the reason I wrote the book. I’ve been looking into the expectation effect for a while and then I came across these studies on on the implications for aging and it just felt like it was something that deserved a whole book rather than a magazine feature article. And just to give some background, the expectation effect concerns how our beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies through changes to our behavior and our physiology. And the research on aging really demonstrates this beautifully. So that’s shown that people who have a negative belief about aging – who associate aging with a kind of inevitable decline with disability and with a lack of independence – that they actually age much more quickly. Their actual biological aging is accelerated. And this can be seen right down to the cellular level. So the length of the protective caps at the ends of the chromosomes for example, these telomeres, they tend to be much shorter as people get older and they’re much much shorter amongst the people with the negative beliefs compared to those with the positive beliefs. And that then has a knock-on effect on their longevity. So people who hold the negative beliefs about aging live for seven and a half years less than people with the positive beliefs. So that instantly kind of got me interested in just how that could be and actually the research shows lots of potential mechanisms.”

On the Power of Expectations

“This is really important in education. It’s known as the Pygmalion Effect but it’s very much an expectation effect like anything else. A huge body of work now has shown that if a teacher has high or low expectations of a student that that will then kind of affect that student’s performance in exams, independently of the student’s actual cognitive ability. It’s been shown in numerous contexts and I think what’s really interesting here is that it’s not just a case of this teacher kind of being nasty to the student or kind of putting them down often. The expectations are just communicated non-verbally body language, the tone of voice, and eye contact. How long they give the student to answer a question is easily picked up by by our brains and then that then changes our sense of self-efficacy – how how capable we feel at doing the task at hand. If that’s low, then you’re less likely to persevere. You might feel more anxiety. All of these things can affect our cognitive performance.”

On The Expectations of Other People

“I actually think it’s also really important when we consider the kind of age beliefs that we discussed earlier, because there’s emerging research showing that well-meaning friends or relatives or co-workers can help to subtly reinforce the negative beliefs about aging – often even when they’re trying to be caring to people. It could just be something like when one of my friends was quite annoyed with her sister because she noticed with her aging parents that her sister was always in a restaurant taking the menu to read it to her Mom and Dad. Actually Mom and Dad were like perfectly capable of reading the menu by themselves, but she was just reinforcing this idea that they were kind of on the decline, which is unhealthy in the long term for you to believe. So I think we should be really careful about how we communicate our expectations and whether our expectations are even fair when we’re dealing with all kinds of people. It’s not just in the school or workplace, it’s at home as well.”

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About Retirement Wisdom

Planning for retirement goes well beyond your 401k or IRA. How will you invest your time after your full-time working years?

You’ll need another portfolio.

Schedule a call to see if a 1-on-1 program or a small group Designing Your New Life program can give you an edge in your next chapter.

Visit retirementwisdom.com for tools and resources to help you retire smarter.

Retirement Wisdom · Feb 3, 2022 ·

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It’s easy to take for granted how much we count on technology. Can you imagine life in the pandemic without it? But what does the future hold for technology that will make life easier for older adults? Keren Etkin, author of The Age Tech Revolution, previews what’s coming and why Age Tech should be part of your planning, especially if aging in place is your goal.

We discuss:

What AgeTech is about
What a Gerontechnologist does – and what led her to that field
The two trends that are colliding and accelerating the development of new technology that will help older adults
The 6 areas where technology can enhance the capabilities of older adults
Myths about older adults and technology
How older adults will use technology in our daily lives 10 years from now
The Longevity Explorers and what we can learn from them
Why retirement is ripe for disruption
How reinvention and re-skilling are alternatives to traditional retirement
The role robots will be playing with older adults in the future
How planning for technology should be on your list if you’re planning to age in place
The coolest technology for older adults she’d like to see developed

Keren Etkin joins us from Israel.

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Bio

Keren Etkin is the author of The Age Tech Revolution – a book about the intersection of technology and aging, founder of TheGerontechnologist.com, a media platform that covers the global agetech ecosystem and offers online courses through the AgeTech Academy, and the founder/director of AgeLabIL at Shenkar college in Israel, an interdisciplinary R&D center focusing on agetech.

Named one of the most influential people in aging, Etkin is a sought-after public speaker and advisor for agetech startups, investors in the longevity economy, care providers and organizations who work on innovation in aging.

Previously, Etkin was the first employee at Intuition Robotics, maker of ElliQ, a pioneering social robot designed with and for older adults, and co-founder & VP of Product at Sensi.ai, a startup that developed the first artificial intelligence solution for remote care monitoring.

She holds an M.A. in Gerontology and a B.Sc. in Life Sciences from Ben-Gurion University.

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For More on Keren Etkin

The Age Tech Revolution on Amazon

Website: TheGerontechnologist.com

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Mentioned in This Episode

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The Longevity Explorers

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Wise Quotes

On Older Adults & Technology

“The facts are that older adults are adopting technology at increasingly growing numbers in the past decade and that this trend of of tech adoption has been around since before Covid. And the pandemic has definitely accelerated it. It accelerated tech adoption and tech usage for everyone, and that is also true for older adults. They bought tech devices they adopted more video chat than ever before, not just to to chat with their children and grandchildren but also also to consume healthcare care services and to use telehealth, and to chat with their friends. And their their book club steadily was online rather than in person. So we saw this massive boost in adoption which is great and also everyone suddenly realized – and when I say everyone, I mean the general population. Everyone who has an older loved one in their lives and also governments – everyone – realized that it’s not a luxury to have older adults use technology. It’s a necessity in our society.”

On the Future of the Home and Aging in Place

“We can we have can have sensors installed and like wall-mounted sensors, wearable sensors in the ring, in the watch and whatever. I think 10 years down the line, we’ll have ambient sensors sort of embedded in our homes sensing us – sensing what we need and and delivering what we need, based on their understanding of of the surroundings, based on whatever readings they get from our bodies. Laurie Orlov calls it the Internet of Behavior. The sensors will be able to predict what we need and and basically give it to us – and I think that can go a long way towards aging in place, because one of the one of the barriers to aging in place is that oftentimes people’s homes are not very customizable. It costs a lot of money to customize your home to to adapt your changing needs as you grow older. And your community might not be so adaptive if you’re not as agile as you used to be twenty or thirty years ago. I think that technology can definitely help us with that and I also expect us to have more robotics and automation into our lives because at the end of the day some of the things that people struggle with in the home as they grow older is is just like household maintenance and household chores – and that’s not a reason to to leave your home right? Because most people prefer to age in place, we can definitely automate a lot of that and we can definitely use technology to to predict our needs and to help us live longer, better, healthier and more active lives. It can help us maintain our our general well-being both physically and emotionally as we grow older and to enable anyone who wants to, to age in place.”

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About Retirement Wisdom

Planning for retirement goes well beyond your 401k or IRA. How will you invest your time after your full-time working years?

You’ll need another portfolio.

Schedule a call to see if a 1-on-1 program or a small group Designing Your New Life program can give you an edge in your next chapter.

Visit retirementwisdom.com for tools and resources to help you retire smarter.

Retirement Wisdom · Jan 31, 2022 ·

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You leave many things behind when you head off to retirement. But some surprising things tag along, including stress. And there will be new stressors to deal with in your new life. Psychiatrist Dr. Samantha Boardman, author of Everyday Vitality: Turning Stress into Strength, shares her insights from scientific research in positive psychology and her clinical experience, on how you can bolster your vitality and enhance your well-being.

We discuss:

Why she went went back to school to become a positive psychiatrist
How she defines Vitality
How two types of people – Teflon and Velcro – react to stress
Emodiversity
Why old dogs can indeed learn new tricks
How you can create Uplifts in your day
The stories we tell ourselves – and the power of a new narrative
The benefits of expanding your horizons
How discomfort gives us valuable data
Why you should want some “desirable difficulty” in your life
Steps to have more Everyday Vitality

Dr. Boardman joins us from New York.

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Bio

Dr. Samantha Boardman is Clinical Instructor in Psychiatry and Attending Psychiatrist at Weill Cornell Medical College. She is also the founder of PositivePrescription.com, a website that combines her training from medical school and psychiatry with her work and training in the field of positive psychology. Her weekly newsletter, the popular Weekly Dose, shares actionable, productive and digestible advice with her devoted readers. Samantha received her B.A. from Harvard University, an M.A. in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, and a Medical Degree from Cornell University Medical College where she was awarded the Oskar Diethelm Prize for Excellence in Psychiatry. Dr. Boardman has published papers in journals including Translational Neuroscience, The American Journal of Psychiatry and The Journal of Clinical Psychiatry.

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For More on Dr. Samantha Boardman

Everyday Vitality: Turning Stress into Strength

Website

Newsletter: The Weekly Dose

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Podcast Episodes You May Like

The Mind-Body Connection and The Rabbit Effect – Kelli Harding

Chatter & Your Inner Voice – Ethan Kross

Retire Happy – Dr. Catherine Sanderson

How to Live a Values Based Life – Harry Kraemer

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Wise Quotes

On Becoming

“We get so stuck in this idea of who we are and the story we tell about ourselves. I am a morning person. I don’t watch football. I can’t stand this. And often, it’s really preferences people have or habits about who they are. I think it’s Dan Ariely, who spoke about how we’re all sort of in the process of becoming. We can all look back and see how much we’ve changed, but we have such a hard time imagining how much we will change moving forward. And we’re all in the process of becoming – no matter what age we are.”

On Noticing

“Her advice was always look for three things every day that are different about your partner. Notice how different they look in that shirt. Notice the way that they are maybe doing something different. Notice when they tell you something. Maybe it’s something they’ve never told you before. Prime yourself to be noticing nuance. This is the essence of mindfulness. It’s not meditating. It’s just noticing what’s different – and what’s new. For instance, if you ask people who are playing in an orchestra and they play the same thing every night, play it just a little bit differently. Not that anyone else would notice, but just for you so that there’s more nuance in it.”

On Values, Actions, and Being Intentional

“Robert Brooks, who we had spoken about is such an interesting man. And I remember he’s talked a lot about how when your values are reflected in your actions and how important that is. And one of the questions I ask my patients when I first meet them is: What are your top three values? And then I’ll ask them: So, how do you spend your time? What did you do on Saturday? And there’s often a disconnect. There’s a sort of vast gap between what they care about, what is meaningful to them, and what they actually do. And I spend a lot of time trying to create much more overlap in that intentionality. And I’ve seen these questions that Robert Brooks had asked about, a different way of framing the walking your walk question: What are three words that your partner or your children, or your best friend or your colleague would use to describe you? Then the next question is: So, what do you do on an everyday basis to sort of invite this description of you in these three words? And then: How do you think your partner, colleague, child would actually describe you? What three words would they actually use? And four: What are you going to do to close that gap? The point is thinking about what you value and then noticing: What are the actions I’m taking to embody those values in my everyday life? And checking in every week to see, and even maybe with your partner or with a best friend, are you walking your walk? Because I think that an incredible, very important contributor to that sense of satisfaction in your everyday life is when it feels intentional. And you don’t feel like a tumble weed sort of being blown around.”

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Mentioned In This Episode

Ryan & Deci Three pillars of well-being

George Bonanno

Dr. Robert Brooks

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About Retirement Wisdom

Planning for retirement goes well beyond your 401k or IRA. How will you invest your time after your full-time working years?

You’ll need another portfolio.

Schedule a call to see if a 1-on-1 program or a small group Designing Your New Life program can give you an edge in your next chapter.

Visit retirementwisdom.com for tools and resources to help you retire smarter.

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Older or Elder? – Marc Cooper

Your Identity Beyond Your Job Title – Laverne McKinnon

Grandmapreneur – Connie Inukai

The Stress Paradox – Sharon Bergquist, MD

The Heart of Grandfatherhood – Ted Page

Detach: Ditch Your Baggage – Dr. Bob Rosen

Retirement Regrets – Noah Sheidlower

Holistic Retirement Planning – Lane Martinsen

Empty Nester – Dr. Rachel Glik

Shift – Ethan Kross

The Art of a Balanced Life in Retirement – Dr. Marybeth Crane

Spring Training (for the Rest of Your Life) – John Kaag

What’s Your Cause? – Ed Hajim

Stop People Pleasing – Hailey Magee

TALK: The Science of Conversation – Alison Wood Brooks

Tiny Experiments – Anne-Laure Le Cunff

Layer Upon Layer – DavId Horton, MD

Our New Social Life – Natalie Kerr & Jaime Kurtz

Lessons Learned in Retirement That Can Help You – Judith Nadratowski

Golden Years – James Chappel

Big Goals – Caroline Adams Miller

The Purpose Code – Dr. Jordan Grumet

How to Winter – Kari Leibowitz

The New Happy – Stephanie Harrison

Season 7

The Very Best of 2024 – Retirement Wisdom

Your Money Matters in 2025 – Larry Kotlikoff

Spiritual Aging – Carol Orsborn, PhD

Slow Living – Stephanie O’Dea

Best of the Retirement Wisdom Podcast 2024 – Part 3

The Pursuit of Wisdom – Ben Lytle

Best Of – On Gratitude

Turning the Page in Retirement – Stephen Riggio

Is Semi-Retirement the Best of Both Worlds? – Liz Weston

The Second Fifty – Debra Whitman

The Art of the Interesting – Lorraine Besser, PhD

Changing Lanes to Make a Difference – Jennifer Jacobs

How to Use Your Head to Save Your Brain – Mitchelll Clionsky, PhD

The Joy You Make – Steven Petrow

Passion and Purpose – Jim Ansara

The Future of Aging – Lauren Dunning | Milken Institute

How to Retire – Christine Benz

Retiring: Creating a Life That Works for You – Teresa Amabile

Best of 2024 – Part Two

The Good Life – Marc Schulz, PhD

The Retirement Savings Time Bomb – Ed Slott

My Last Bad Day – Michael O’Brien

Strategies for Retiring Right – Rick Atkinson

Retire on Fire – Cathy Bishop-Clark

Phased Retirement – Jennifer Barnes

A Season for That – Steve Hoffman

Is Your House in Order? – Adam Zuckerman

Living Like You Mean It – Jodi Wellman

Making a Difference by Mentoring – Jay Silverman

The Laws of Connection – David Robson

Your Next Act – Robert B. Tucker

Not Too Late – Gwendolyn Bounds

Unretired – Mark S. Walton

The Science of Longevity – Coleen T. Murphy