- Why she went went back to school to become a positive psychiatrist
- How she defines Vitality
- How two types of people – Teflon and Velcro – react to stress
- Why old dogs can indeed learn new tricks
- How you can create Uplifts in your day
- The stories we tell ourselves – and the power of a new narrative
- The benefits of expanding your horizons
- How discomfort gives us valuable data
- Why you should want some “desirable difficulty” in your life
- Steps to have more Everyday Vitality
Dr. Boardman joins us from New York.
Dr. Samantha Boardman is Clinical Instructor in Psychiatry and Attending Psychiatrist at Weill Cornell Medical College. She is also the founder of PositivePrescription.com, a website that combines her training from medical school and psychiatry with her work and training in the field of positive psychology. Her weekly newsletter, the popular Weekly Dose, shares actionable, productive and digestible advice with her devoted readers. Samantha received her B.A. from Harvard University, an M.A. in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, and a Medical Degree from Cornell University Medical College where she was awarded the Oskar Diethelm Prize for Excellence in Psychiatry. Dr. Boardman has published papers in journals including Translational Neuroscience, The American Journal of Psychiatry and The Journal of Clinical Psychiatry.
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